Dear Viking Voice,
1. My friend is always putting her business out there. I don’t
mean just little things either, she talks openly about how she fools around with
boys and she can be pretty graphic. I get worried about what other people who
over hear her might say. They could spread rumors, but she always gets
aggravated when I try and tell her to stop. What should I do?
It sounds like your friend loves attention, and she is getting it any way she can. Show her, or tell her straight up, that the way she is seeking attention isn't good, and their are other ways to get attention. Express your feelings to her, telling her that everyone doesn't need to know her personal buisness, after all it could get her in a sticky situation. If she doesn't want to listen to you, try and get some of her other friends to express their feelings as well. Hope my adivice helps!
2. My friend is a good kid, and does well at school, but he is
always making up things to people. He always exaggerates things he does, and
tells lies that make him seem real impressive. I am pretty sure other students
know, and joke about him behind his back. I don’t want to call him out, but if I
don’t someone else eventually will. What can I do?
My advice to you is to approach him in private. Tell him he is a great guy and doesn't need to lie to impress others- being himself is enough. Let him know that these lies don't make him any cooler. He isn't gaining anything from this habbit of his, for people who are his real frinds don't need impressing. They are friends with him not because of all the fibs he tells, but because they think the real him is a cool dude no matter what.
3. My girlfriend is real sick, but doesn’t want anyone to know.
She tries so hard to hide it she doesn’t always do what’s best for her. She will
push herself too hard, and skip taking medicine. I want her to fit in, but I
don’t want her to get real sick and die. What should I do?
I can tell you care for your girlfriend alot, and want the best for her. I'm sure she is having a tough time and so are you! Let her know that there are alot of people out there that love and care for her. Keeping her sickness a secret is just making life more stressful, and she would feel alot better if she wasn't carrying the burrden all by herself. To get better, she needs to rest and only take on what she can handle at the moment. If she wants to get better she has to take her medicine, there is no way around it. Let her know how you feel and how much you are hurting for her.
mean just little things either, she talks openly about how she fools around with
boys and she can be pretty graphic. I get worried about what other people who
over hear her might say. They could spread rumors, but she always gets
aggravated when I try and tell her to stop. What should I do?
It sounds like your friend loves attention, and she is getting it any way she can. Show her, or tell her straight up, that the way she is seeking attention isn't good, and their are other ways to get attention. Express your feelings to her, telling her that everyone doesn't need to know her personal buisness, after all it could get her in a sticky situation. If she doesn't want to listen to you, try and get some of her other friends to express their feelings as well. Hope my adivice helps!
2. My friend is a good kid, and does well at school, but he is
always making up things to people. He always exaggerates things he does, and
tells lies that make him seem real impressive. I am pretty sure other students
know, and joke about him behind his back. I don’t want to call him out, but if I
don’t someone else eventually will. What can I do?
My advice to you is to approach him in private. Tell him he is a great guy and doesn't need to lie to impress others- being himself is enough. Let him know that these lies don't make him any cooler. He isn't gaining anything from this habbit of his, for people who are his real frinds don't need impressing. They are friends with him not because of all the fibs he tells, but because they think the real him is a cool dude no matter what.
3. My girlfriend is real sick, but doesn’t want anyone to know.
She tries so hard to hide it she doesn’t always do what’s best for her. She will
push herself too hard, and skip taking medicine. I want her to fit in, but I
don’t want her to get real sick and die. What should I do?
I can tell you care for your girlfriend alot, and want the best for her. I'm sure she is having a tough time and so are you! Let her know that there are alot of people out there that love and care for her. Keeping her sickness a secret is just making life more stressful, and she would feel alot better if she wasn't carrying the burrden all by herself. To get better, she needs to rest and only take on what she can handle at the moment. If she wants to get better she has to take her medicine, there is no way around it. Let her know how you feel and how much you are hurting for her.